Finding The Right Therapist
Scrolling through headshots, trying to figure out who understands…
Finding the right therapist can be harder than it should be.
As a straight-passing, cisgender, Bi+ woman and recovering perfectionist raised Catholic. I spent years on the other side of the screen, looking for a therapist who actually got me.
Someone who didn’t flinch when I said “what the fuck” in session.
Someone who knew what it meant to live in a body that’s always scanning for safety.
Someone who understood what it’s like being told you’re “too much.”
I know how isolating it is to carry all of that alone.. That’s why my work is about creating space where sensitivity, queerness, and complexity aren’t problems to solve, they’re actually strengths to build from.
Highly Sensitive Child
Sensitive. Smart. Responsible. Anxious as hell. That was me.
The high-achieving kid who stayed quiet, having learned that being useful meant feeling safe.
And then I hit a wall.
My first panic attack cracked something inside. Perfectionism was killing me, and I had to learn a different way to live.
Now, I offer that same space to others—outsiders, overthinkers, people-pleasers, invisible rebels.
Therapy for the Ones Who’ve Tried Everything Else
If you’ve worked with other therapists and still feel like something’s missing, you’re not alone. Most of my clients are smart, reflective, often deeply aware of their patterns. They’ve read the books, tried the tools, and maybe even done therapy before. A lot of it.
But—anxiety, overwhelm, people-pleasing, and fear are still running the show.
That's where the deeper work begins.
Together, we'll slow things down, understand the protective patterns that once helped you survive, and create enough safety new ways of living become possible.
What You Might Be Carrying
These are some of the experiences that show up in my work with clients.
Anxiety & perfectionism that won’t let your mind rest, and the sense that nothing you do is quite enough.
Religious trauma and the lingering weight of shame, fear, or “too muchness.”
Complex or childhood trauma shaped by survival strategies like fawning, freezing, or over-functioning.
What You Might Be Exploring
Queer and gender identity without pressure or judgment—focused on clarity, self-trust, and belonging.
The experience of being straight-passing, unseen, or shifting between visibility and invisibility.
Kink-affirming and non-monogamy-affirming therapy grounded in curiosity, not assumption.
Credentials
Oregon License #L2784
MSW, Portland State University
Clinical training in EMDR, grief recovery, trauma-informed care
Ongoing training in LGBTQIA+ and feminist therapy
Plus the unofficial credentials:
Raised Catholic (graduate-level guilt training)
Queer, Bi+, done performing for approval
Highly sensitive, direct, and deeply relational
Years of working with anxious, overthinking, exhausted perfectionists
Becoming the therapist I was looking for
I stopped chasing perfection and started getting real—and now I help other people do the same.
Therapy with me isn’t about fixing you. It’s about helping you show up without apology, without over-explaining, and without pretending you’re fine when you’re not.
You don’t have to earn your place here. You don’t have to shrink to be understood.
That’s where we begin.
If this resonates, it’s not random.
It might be time.